We have tried to combat some of these elements by talking about proper behavior, but as the old adage goes -- actions speak louder than words. When he does earn money (by sorting recyclables for redemption), we look at websites to find a place to donate 10% -- usually he chooses a charity related to kids or pets. If he does buy something with the remainder, we make a big deal about him physically giving the money to the cashier, and how once the money is gone, he can't buy any more gummy sharks, Legos, etc., and that our money has a limit as well.
In relation to gifts, we spent some time yesterday talking about all the people who buy him nice things during the year, and wouldn't it be nice to do something for them for Christmas in return. I asked if he wanted to buy them something or make something, and he chose to make something. We had already talked about making popsicle tree ornaments like these after seeing the directions in a magazine last month. We made one for dada, nana and grandpa, and his grandma, but I wanted him to thank some of the other people he doesn't know as well who regularly do nice things for him. We came up with my co-worker who gets us in to Disneyland for free several times per year, and gives Hank thrifted books and clothes on nearly a weekly basis, and my aunt, who is on a very limited income, yet sends Hank a small gift or card for most holidays. I asked him who he wanted to thank at school. He thought about it for a bit, and said Finn's dad. Finn is Hank's best buddy at school, and his dad works at a local sea life rescue organization. During the summer, Finn's dad would bring sea creatures to school every Friday for the kids to explore. We also had a play date over the summer, and did things like this
So yeah -- I get why Finn's dad is held in such high esteem. We made his ornament with seashell sequins. I was hoping he'd want to thank one of the women at school who have wiped his nose and his butt for the past 4 years, but just glad he acknowledged somebody in his life by name.
Coincidentally, Finn's birthday party is this weekend -- will we be able to relinquish his gift graciously?
Favorite of the day: Cute for New Year's?
Working on: Odds and ends